Gordon Gekko once said, “The point is, ladies and gentlemen, that greed, for lack of a better word, is good. Greed is right. Greed works.” This quote popped into my head while having lunch with Chester Bogart yesterday in the city, because we were having a conversation about women and relationships, and we kept asking ourselves how many times we have been in situations where who we are or what we give is never enough. Why is it that certain women are always looking around for the next best opportunity, for the man that will give them a bigger car, a nicer house, a larger diamond ring, and yet they expect good guys like us to want to take them seriously? I call this the G.I.G. Syndrome (Grass is Greener), because it centers on the mentality of certain women always looking around for an option that is financially and socially superior to their current one.
There are so many women who only focus on monetary and material items, and are always looking for a “super size” on their happy meal. When I was out in Miami recently, I can’t tell you how many times various women I was talking to asked me, “What kind of car do you drive?” “How much do you make?” Or my all time favorite, “Do you own the company? ” When did the questions in dating become centered around money, and not on spirituality, passion, and psychological development? Now that I have been forced to significantly reduce my lifestyle and can no longer enjoy some of the luxuries I was once able to, I see this quality more and more in women I talk to.
Of course, I don’t mean this in any way as a generalization of the female gender because I have met many genuine and authentic women in my life, but lately I feel like I have only encountered women in the dating world who care about one thing, “THE DOLLAR”. Yet, these same women don’t understand why it is that men will see the red flag of them being a potential gold-digger, and want only one thing and then once they get it they are ready to call it a day with them. These are the same women that you will see hanging out together at a fancy restaurant wearing their best jewelry and attacking men like it’s a shark feeding frenzy or walking around a club and flashing their cleavage at any guy wearing an expensive watch or shoes. No one takes them seriously so they just get used and abused.
On a recent date, the girl I was with asked me why I only had an American Express Platinum Card, and I responded with “what’s wrong with that?” and her response was “my last boyfriend had a black card.” I couldn’t understand how she could have been so rude, and yet here I was sitting across the table having dinner with her. Maybe it’s that I look for the wrong qualities in women I date, maybe it’s the places I frequent, or maybe it’s that our culture has become so concentrated on financial stability in such an uncertain time that getting to know a person becomes an afterthought in the dating process? Whatever the answer is, it is important to feel safe and comfortable with the person you date or marry, and when the relationship centers on money, then the man better watch out.